I'm not there yet. I'm not hating you for this story. Right now, it is too cliche.
Make me hate you.
You're supposed to hate because IT IS messy. That's where the dramatic tension is found.
I'm a pragmatist, if I were in a loveless, non-physical relationship with my husband, I'd expect him to feel attraction to someone else. If I didn't think counseling would help us, I'd wish him well and grant him a divorce.Charlie Mike wrote: ↑August 3rd, 2022, 5:38 pm Imagine you are reading a novel.
The lead character, a dude, is in a loveless marriage. The couple gets along well enough, but they haven't touched each other in years and they are just plodding along day by day.
Then, one day, by accident, the wife finds out her husband is in love with another woman. The other woman strong, capable professional who is also very attractive. The husband and the other woman often have dinner together and work requires them to be together for extended periods of time. They enjoy a lot of laughs and common interests. They almost seem like the perfect couple who ought to be together.
Furious, the wife hires a PI, and then comes the real shocker: they aren't sleeping together. They don't kiss. They don't even hold hands. In fact, it's not even certain the other woman is aware of the husband's feelings. It seems he has kept his feelings to himself out of fear that a relationship could hurt - professionally or otherwise - the other woman and he doesn't want to be an adulterer.
As a wife, how would you react?
If it's a cycle of emotions or whatever, describe the whole thing.
I have to imagine the thought of infidelity is crushing enough, but the thought of someone being a better fit for their spouse would just leave the spouse feeling hollowed out. Even a sexual relationship might seem better because at least then it could be blamed on appetite or some such.
Can you hate someone who has naturally occurring feelings but remains physically faithful?
Is not-sleeping with another woman actually cliche?
He's not sleeping with either of them, correct? Is he secretly gay?
I don't blame him for the failed marriage, but he is one of two people in it. What has he done to preserve his marriage? As soon as he started having feelings for the other woman, he should have put a stop to it. That can be done. If he was miserable in his marriage, it was up to him to end it. By continuing his feelings for the other woman while not being honest with his wife, he is at fault there. (I have lots of opinions on cheaters, my mother was grade A when it came to cheating on husbands. She is married to number 5. He was the last one.)
That's a great plot twist. I sympathize with the new woman because she can't help who she is, but I doubt I would be friends with her. She sounds too perfect.blue wrote: ↑August 5th, 2022, 3:25 pm He's not sleeping with either of them, correct? Is he secretly gay?
Not that there's anything wrong with that.
To me, it seems like the same exact relationship between the both of them. If he is anti-sexual, then I imagine readers would be more interested in his other interests. Does he have any other addictions? Can he flip houses?
If he wants to be sexual, but is just hoping that his first relationship will somehow morph back into that, yet he's seeing another chick? Not happening. Divorce. End of story. Screw the new woman for goodness sakes.
I find the goodie goodie new woman annoying with her cute smile and her oh so innocent charm.
I would be interested in hearing a man's perspective on it.
Well, I definitely wanted to get the female perspective, but I'm not the kind of person that would go, "NO! YOU CAN'T!"